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Women Of Worth

“Women Of Worth” – Ashleigh Caoni

Let’s be real the topic “Women Of Worth” wasn’t easy. I started to question my own self.

  • Am I worthy?
  • Am I a strong woman and what it means to be one?
  • Do I live up to society’s expectations on being a woman of worth?
  • Do I care more about what others think of me than I do of myself?
  • Do I Seek love, appreciation and approval from others instead of finding them within?

I literally had all these questions racing through my head without sitting down to even define the meaning of worth. What is worth? I’ve come to the conclusion that worth resorts back to practicing self-love.

  1. Learning how to stop comparing yourself to others
  2. Stop giving the people the power to come into your life with negative opinions.
  3. Allowing yourself to make some sort of mistakes in life in order to grow stronger and BETTER!
  4. Trusting yourself to make your own decisions instead of having someone else make them for you.

The person that matters to you the most should be yourself and people might be offended by what I just stated. The person that matters the most should be yourself. WHY? It’s plain and simple… if you don’t take care of yourself then how are you going to be good for others around you. Earlier I stated you shouldn’t worry about what others think of you and what kind of opinions people have about you but why be would you want to be around someone else not well kept? Well kept meaning showing yourself love and spreading it to others!

“The Good Energy”

Practice creating high quality thoughts! Never telling yourself that your not good enough in any situation no matter how tough it is. Give yourself a pep talk on how much of a “Bad Ass” you are and then some sis! You hear me? This goes a long way because we teach others how to treat us by showing them how we treat ourselves. So treat yourself well by showing yourself respect, love, and kindness of course.

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Let Go Of What Weighs You Down: If You Thought I Was Talking About A Relationship Or Job. You’re Wrong!

Letting Go Of What Weighs You Down: If You Thought I Was Talking About A Relationship Or Job. You’re Wrong “- Ashleigh Caoni

For a twenty-six year old woman I will say I have not experienced everything but I have experienced enough. This topic is pretty board but is often brushed off to the side. Most people have an attitude of “I got this; I’ll figure it out but on my own time”. Letting go of what weighs you down doesn’t necessarily mean we’re talking about a relationship or a job! And I bet you were thinking that this blog post was just about those topics. The board ones! Wheww! Glad we can actually get into something much deeper.

Here’s 5 Steps To Letting Go Of What Weighs You Down:

1. Could simply mean your accustomed way of thinking. If you’re ever stuck in a situation that feels like a never ending cycle, the first thing we should do is stop and examine is our thought process. But hey, that’s not what most of us do honestly. If we’re being real, even I struggle sometimes with this. Sometimes we have to sit down and re-evaluate ourselves and what is causing us to stay in the same situation.

“If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.”

2. Your past failures is another common situation that weighs us down. There is no one on this earth that is completely perfect, that has NEVER made a mistake. But wait I just lied to you. There is a person You know who that person is? ME, Yeah right! I bet you laughed at that. Yes, I make mistakes. Yes, I screw things up but that is the beauty of it. I’m not perfect and I don’t want to be. We make mistakes we learn from them (hopefully) and move on! The lesson should never be forgotten but the failure itself should not continue to weigh you down. Failures weigh heavy if you dwell on them. Lessons should lift you up and make you want to make room for growth. Realizing that you’ve done everything you could of and that’s the end of it.

3. Mhmm, You knew it was coming you know them habits you love but come on sis. You know they do you no good. Let’s face it we all participate in stuff that we shouldn’t. We know it’s not good for the soul but we do it anyway. Why?! They bring you happiness.. but for the moment. You have to realize that you want long term satisfaction not just temporarily. Later you most likely will pay for it. Get rid of those bad habits slowly.

“Man what was I thinking?! Not again! Damn, Damn, Dayummmm!”

4. Shoot, this next one might just be for me. The need to constantly be moving, constantly be doing.. Yeah, this one is for me definitely! I’d be a hypocrite to tell you this and not attempt to take my own advice! Trust me I am working on it as well. Truth is, we all need those days where we just sit around and not do anything. These are called “Lazy Days”. If your anything like me I feel like I don’t give my mind/body the time it needs to actually rest unless I’m sleeping. Sometimes you need to take a breather and do nothing more than is minimally required to be considered alive. If you feel the need to do anything make sure you pamper yourself. Pamper yourself with a bubble bath, get some fresh air even if it sitting outside on your porch. Even this can be included while your sitting outside like reading a book or listening to music!

“Yesterday I did nothing and today I’m finishing what I did yesterday.” And make sure your in cozy clothes —-> as long as it’s your day off!

5. Just do it. Like Nike said! Ha, yeah my jokes are corny. Real life corny. (Probably made you laugh a little bit though) Your pointless fears. Yes, get rid of them. Well the necessary ones that can hurt you of course but you already know that. Take that job, date that person, move to the city that you’ve been wanting to even if this means leaving everyone. Do the things that scare the shit out of you.

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Practicing Self-Love: Love Yourself And Then Love Yourself Some More

Practicing Self Love:

“Love yourself & Then love yourself some more” -Ashleigh Caoni

As a young mom entrepreneur, a business owner and a college student I try to set aside a little “down time” for myself even if it’s for 15 minutes. For a woman that’s always on the go I actually have found some me time. Honestly nowadays I find walking in the park or sitting by the pool side on a hot summer day to be most relaxing for me.

Other ways I find to be relaxing is reading a book for 15 minutes, taking a bubble bath between 30 minutes to an hour with a glass of wine, riding home while listening to inspirational podcasts or in silence to clear my thoughts or writing in a journal. Either way I’ve found some ways take some time to myself and not attend to anyone else but me! Taking care of yourself is important because if you are not right within you will not be right for others. People can feel your energy when you’re around them. You want to give off positive vibes. Concentrating on yourself is the best thing you can do. Start by working on all your insecurities, your ego, and any negative thoughts in order to make peace with yourself. Here’s some steps to practice self love:

1. Start each day by telling yourself something positive. How well you handled certain situations, How proud you are of yourself or just simply just telling yourself “ You Look Good Today”

2. Fill Your Body With food and drinks that nourish it and make it thrive.

3. Surround yourself with people who inspire, love and encourage you to do great things. Tell yourself that you don’t have time to hang around people who don’t inspire you. This is not being selfish but this is making sure that you surround yourself with people who help you grow.

4. End all toxics relationships. Anyone who brings negativity into your life is bad for business. You don’t want to mix that with pleasure anyway!

5. Embrace and love all things that make you different. Stop worrying about what others think about you.

6. Take the time out calm your mind every day by finding something that truly relaxes you.

7. Be-patient but persistent. Self-love is ever evolving and needs to be practiced daily.

8. Stay in contact with family, friends, and mentors. People that help you get through tough times or are there for good times as well.

9. Forgive yourself and stop beating yourself up. You can’t change things you’ve done or allowed. All you can do is learn from them and move on!

10. Be realistic. No one is always happy every single day but we can find ways to cope.

11. Find your happy place. (Mine is wine LOL, what’s yours?)

12. And last but most importantly. HAVE FUN! Go out, Live your best life and enjoy yourself to the fullest!